Is life happening to you, or for you?

Sometimes we get so focused on the pain, we don’t see the answer right in front of us. The things that happen to us in life are sometimes happening for us not to us! The things that come to us in life are opportunities for growth and for learning. However painful my dear friend, there is always something to learn or to grow from.

Things are often brought back to us over and over until “we get it”. It will be the same situation but a different outcome. Our job is to ask, “what am I supposed to learn from this?” Zoom out, focus out. Ask to see the things you’re missing. The parts that seem so painful. THAT is where the healing is. The good things that come from it, that’s the healing, that’s the solution.

What we focus on, grows. What we give attention to, will grow. The energy goes there. Obsessing over being stuck, obsessing over the downside will not bring healing or relief.  Feel your feelings but don’t stay there. Look for the healing, look for what is happening to heal you. Trust me, life is happening for you, not to you!